I was talking with a friend about how some people feel the need to comment on what I or other people are eating: “Oh, that looks healthy,” “Yuck, I don’t like beans,” “Wow you always bring homemade stuff. I don’t know how you have time for that,” “I’ve never seen you eat a piece of cake before! Are you off your diet?” “You know avocados are bad for you, right? Too much fat.”
I don’t know why, but it really bugs me. I’m going to give people the benefit of the doubt and say that most of them don’t mean anything by it, but there’s there other group of people who say that stuff to judge, like they want you to explain your choices. It’s annoying.
I’m allowed to eat what I want, when I want to. I’m allowed to enjoy healthy and not-so-healthy stuff. I can eat a kale salad for lunch one day, and 3 chili dogs the next [see: 4th of July]. I don’t need to explain myself to you, and you don’t need to explain yourself to me. We can all just eat what we want. I don’t ask you about what you’re eating or lecture you on why having a frozen meal or McD’s for lunch every single day isn’t good for you. I don’t comment that Coke you’re drinking is bad for you. I don’t draw attention to your meal just because you’re opting to have a salad for lunch instead of your usual burger and fries (it goes both ways!). People like variety. You don’t have to eat one way all the time!
My general rule of thumb is that unless I’m genuinely interested in the recipe or something looks really good to me (and I’d like to re-create it at home), I don’t comment or ask questions about other people’s food. It just seems rude to pester someone or give a running commentary on what they’re eating; you have no idea what their history or situation is. Maybe they are recovering from an eating disorder, just found out they have a food allergy, are trying to eat healthier, were craving some chicken nuggets (ahem), or just grabbed a bunch of random leftovers from their fridge. Instead of scrutinizing other people’s choices, take a few minutes to evaluate your own. Then do what YOU want! Eat happy, and mind your own business.